All college prep school parents, particularly middle school parents, will benefit by reading about the No Rescue Policy from Wanda Holland Greene of The Hamlin School in San Francisco. We won't editorialize. Her words are spot-on.
In this shortened week, many students face deadlines. A stream of boys can be heard in our offices over the last two days calling home, either requesting things to be brought to school that they left behind or attempting the "I'm not feeling well" phone call that can mean "because I failed to complete my assignment on time, and I gotta get outta here!"
Be assured, we take temperatures and initiate an "eye-test" for all stated illnesses. However, some boys are obviously allergic to accountability. We can usually tell what's going on because our job as professionals is to pay attention to context as well as content!
If ill, go home, son. Please. Call your mom. If feeling sorry for yourself, that's another matter. Hang up.
The big idea is that the boys have known their assignments and the associated due dates for weeks. We hound them through their Assignment Books. Every assembly we call attention both to group and to individual academic matters, and every study hall boys have opportunity to access the computer lab, math lab, English lab, the library, and even their own Assignment Books as they plan their work and work their plans!
Bottom line: Let us have these boys so they can grow up. You pay us a lot. Hold us accountable to the MUS mission statement, and allow the process to mold the boy. We claim to know what we're doing, and the alumni thank us once they hit graduation and come to their senses!
Parents, we understand the anxiety. Many of us have children as well, and we struggle with the same fast-paced world and high expectations for our children. It's really tough sometimes. That said, the boys are safe here, and they have to grow up. A failed assignment is a great lesson, and we strive to intercept them where they are in order to launch them out toward where and what they must be.
So, moms and dads, go out there, and make the world a better place. Detach from these boys while they are in classes. They learn independence in the process, and that's what school is all about.