Looking for the right way to bribe your children? The advice we read here is to encourage the kid to choose his/her reward in order to seal their buy-in to the process.
From the article:
This tactic has worked well for Anthony Kure, whose 7- and 9-year-old girls picked Beanie Boos and My Little Pony toys as their currency of choice. The North Royalton, Ohio-based financial adviser then established a "pay rate" easy enough for the two girls to understand: One hour of work for certain nondaily responsibilities, such as sweeping the garage, equates to around $5—which is roughly the price of a single toy.
The main idea for these boys at school is that the more responsibility one demonstrates, the more privileges one receives. It's really simple. More of an opportunity than an entitlement.
So, how much money should be considered if, let's say, the lads and lasses choose a monetary reward for succeeding in their efforts? Is an allowance plus standard chores the norm in your home, independent of achieving goals? Do you even set goals with your kids? Parents can decide what the house rules are, for instance, what is a child's reasonable service at home, grades at school, and what is a reward for achieving goals or acknowledging particular merit?
Those of us who experienced more entitlement than "wages for work" as children may want to reverse the course for our children. The opposite can also be true in that for those of us parents who received little entitlement, we may err on the side of spoiling our children. Of course, there are also the examples among us of entitlement leading to more entitlement and old-school promoting more old-school! There is diversity in the family cultures were serve, in other words.
There are many opinions that we've heard/witnessed about all this over the years here at school, and we are not dogmatic about the details parents choose when it comes to allowances, bribes, goals, rewards..., and all this can get unnecessarily complex. There should be a lot of freedom within and among families for each one to enact stipulations based on what their family priorities are.
The bottom line: kids do seem to want to participate in their goals and rewards, possible even in their rewards and punishments, and a disciplined parent approach in accordance with parent-child negotiations can positively motivate the students we encounter at MUS.